But what exactly is a Rage Doula?
My Approach: ​
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My History:
My Why:
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I believe fully and deeply that you have the medicine, answers, wisdom, and guidance to tend to your own healing. And, that shit is really difficult to do entirely alone! My approach to being a rage doula is simply to be a sound board for you to figure out what's irritating you, why that is, what you want to do about it, and how to help you get there. It's really that simple (even though it's obviously not!) ​
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My educational, work, organizing, and activist background has been a decades long experience of working with and supporting survivors of violence find and craft and remember healing is possible and tangible within this landscape of so much violence.
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While participating in an Asian femme healing space, my anger and rage became the most visible it ever was in any form of healing or support space I had ever participated in. While sharing about the more shameful aspects of my rage, one of the participants graciously shared they felt I should become a rage doula because of how I just shared and embodied my process of moving thru anger. Soon enough, some folks from the space expressed interest in working with me and boom, here we are!
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What I'm About
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collaboration
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trauma-informed
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harm-reduction
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co-creating the container to hold your feelings and experiences with the utmost care and respect
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meeting you where you are at
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consensual communication
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controlled chaos
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honoring "difficult" emotions in their totality (i.e. grief, resentment, shame, pity, defensiveness)
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moving at the speed of your own pace
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informed choice
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encouragement of self-agency
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curiosity
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check-ins about the process
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honesty about my own capacity
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giving unsolicited and non-consensual feedback
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telling you what to do
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encouraging shame and guilt based action
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"fixing" you
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forcing resiliency narratives around experiences you don't feel resilient about
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fast-paced/quick fix
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judgement
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positive vibes only
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medical diagnosis
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love and light bullshit
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i'm not a healer
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conflict management between multiple people
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